Frequently, people ask me, “How can I be successful like [successful person’s name]?”
Sometimes they ask it like this, “How can I be as successful as [successful person’s name]?”
And, when they ask me this question, you can feel their frustration, you can feel their hopelessness, you can feel that they don’t believe they can attain the success they desire.
They feel this way because they stopped too soon. They asked one single question and because of how they phrased and positioned the question to themselves, there wasn’t an easy answer and now they’re stuck – and that’s why they feel the way they do.
My friend, you must get beyond limiting questions and learn to ask yourself empowering and enabling questions!
So, in response to their question, I might ask them a question back like, “How successful is [successful person’s name]?”
They almost always tell me, “I don’t know” or “I’m not sure”.
Well, as you can already tell from my question and their answer, they don’t even know what their target is. They have nothing more than a vague, ambiguous, ethereal notion of what they want. They just know they want to be more successful.
No wonder they feel stuck, stumped, and frustrated. Trying to hit a target of “nothingness” is ALWAYS a maddening exercise.
The obvious point is that regardless of whatever level of success you perceive someone else to have, you must decide clearly and specifically what level of success YOU want.
But, let’s say they are clear on how successful they want to be. Then, I’ll ask them something like, “What makes [successful person’s name] so successful? In your study of them, what are the specific things that you have observed them doing that you believe causes them to be so successful?”
Again, they almost always tell me, “I don’t know” or “I’m not sure”.
So now, we both know that really, their desire for greater success is merely an idle wish. They want “something” but they aren’t really serious about it. They aren’t serious enough about it to actually try to study and figure out how to attain the success they say they want.
Really, they just want something for nothing – and God never supports that model. There is always a sacrifice, there is always a price.
But, I’ll push forward and ask them to give my question some thought for a moment and see if they can come up with some things they “think” the successful person might be doing. And, now that they’re actually thinking about it, they usually come up with two or three things.
Now, I ask them, “Are these things that the successful person does – that you just told me about – are these things that at some level – maybe it’s to a different degree – maybe it’s on a different scale – but at some level, could you do these same things?”
Usually, their answer is along the lines of, “Uhhhh, yea, I guess so.”
At which point, I usually ask them one last question, “Do you really want to be as successful as [successful person’s name]? If you do, then you now know what you need to start doing because if you do what they do, you’ll become as successful as they are.”
Ask yourself empowering, enabling, thought-provoking questions.
Success is waiting for you.
Peace, Love, and Blessings,
Copyright © 2008 by Lane Fox, MillionairesForJesus.com
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